Remember What Your Mother Taught You

Remember What Your Mother Taught You

Remember What Your Mother Taught You

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A Safety Valve for Mom’s Rule

It’s all the rage these days. If you’re in transition, you have to be using LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter. But why? The rationale seems to be that if you can just reach a person – no matter how distant and tenuous the link – you can depend on them to help you land a job. But, stop and think about it. If you were in their place – if you were a friend of a friend of a Web contact – would you risk your reputation and credibility to stand up for someone who was essentially a stranger? I doubt it, and that reality is the invisible flaw in online networking today.

As it’s now practiced, networking on the Web is a contact sport. The more connections, friends and followers you have, the better. Your networking prowess is determined by the size of your address book.

What’s the purpose of all that effort? Apparently, it’s to increase the odds that someone might tell you about an opening you haven’t seen or recommend you for a job you’re trying to land. The math makes sense but the strategy doesn’t.

Why? Because it violates Mom’s Rule. What was the first lesson your mother taught you? That’s right. Don’t speak to strangers. Or, to put it in workplace terms, don’t risk your reputation or your own job security by vouching for someone you don’t know.

Now, some will say that violates the Golden Rule, but it depends on which Golden Rule you mean. You see, there are actually two: one for everyday human interaction and one for the interactions that occur in the workplace.

  • Do unto others as you would have them do unto you is a wonderful way to approach life. Its fundamental ethos is responsibility. We should hold ourselves to the same standards we apply to others.
  • While responsibility is also important in the job market, however, the fundamental ethos in that venue is reciprocity. Hence the Golden Rule of Networking is to give as good as you get. In other words, if you want others to help you in your job search, you must first be helpful to them.
  • Build Reciprocity in the Blink of an Eye

    If networking is all about mutual support, there’s more involved than simply making contact. You have to transform those contacts into relationships. Or to put it another way, networking isn’t a contact sport, it’s a team sport.

    How do you establish those relationships? By investing the time and making the effort to share your knowledge, wisdom, information and ideas with peers, friends and colleagues. You look for ways to be of service to them so that they will be of service to you whenever you need it.

    Developing such mutual support doesn’t occur overnight, however, so it’s best to get started before you find yourself in transition. That said, it is possible to generate at least some level of reciprocity in the blink of an eye, so you can rely on it during an active job search.

    Here are a couple of ways to get started:

  • Join the discussion forum on the Web-site of your professional society or trade association and take part regularly. (I recommend 3-4 times a week.) Look for ways to contribute to the conversation by providing information and insights that are helpful to the other participants.
  • Identify the most popular peer blog or LinkedIn group in your field and replicate your behavior on the discussion forum. Brand yourself as someone who contributes regularly and for the good of others.
  • Make those investments of your time and talent for a couple of weeks, and you’re likely to find at least some of your contacts have become relationships. And, relationships are the safety valve of Mom’s Rule. They transform strangers into people you can count on.

    Thanks for reading,

    Peter

    Visit Me at Weddles.com

    A Multitude of Hope

    Are you tired of hearing the U.S. is no longer the world leader it once was? Are you fed up with pundits who opine that the American Dream has been replaced by the Chinese Dream or the Indian Dream or the Korean Dream?

    If so, get my new book, A Multitude of Hope: A Novel About Rediscovering the American Dream. Ripped right from today’s headlines, it recounts the experiences of three laid-off Baby Boomers and a secret online group of workplace activists practicing economic disobedience against the vulture capitalists in the American workplace.

    A Multitude of Hope will entertain and educate you and, as it names implies, give you hope for the future – yours and your kids.

    The book won’t be published for another week or so, but you can place a pre-order with Amazon right now by clicking here.

    Job Nation: The 100 Best Employment Sites

    The American Staffing Association was kind enough to call me the “Zagat” of the online employment industry. And, just as Tim and Nina Zagat used their classic guides to identify the best restaurants, I have published a guide to the best employment sites on the Web.

    Called Job Nation: The 100 Best Employment Sites on the Web, it’s my pick of the top job boards, career portals and professional networking sites on the Internet.

    Every site is profiled with a complete consumer’s guide to its features, services and resources. That way, you can shop smart and pick the sites that will work best for you.

    While admitting to some bias, I think Job Nation is the single best way to use the Internet to find a new or better job. And, it retails for just $14.95.

    Get the book at Amazon.com or at Weddles.com. But, wherever you get it, don’t delay. Get Job Nation today.

    There’s Social & There’s Success

    If you’re looking to connect with friends and colleagues, social media is your best bet. If, on the other hand, you’re looking for the keys to an effective job search and a healthy career, you’ll be better served with “success media.”

    What constitutes “success media?”

    Guides and other books that let you in on the secrets to finding, winning and holding on to the job of your dreams. They include:

    Work Strong: Your Personal Career Fitness System. This book introduces a complete regimen of activities that will help you successfully compete for and hang onto the job of your dreams. Its one-of-a-kind program not only tells you what to do, but how to do it and how often.

    The Career Activist Republic. This blockbuster of a book provides a provocative yet positive assessment of the changing world of work in the American economy and describes an innovative strategy that will enable you to avoid the pitfalls and capture the opportunities in this new environment.

    The Success Matrix: Wisdom from the Web on How to Get Hired and Not Be Fired. This anthology collects the best of Peter Weddle’s columns on job search and career success. It is the only book you’ll find that provides a candid and totally up-to-date look at how to get and stay ahead in today’s workplace.

    Recognizing Richard Rabbit. This fable for adults will entertain and delight you and help you out of the boxes that keep you from becoming the champion inside you. It is a novel and engaging way to recognize the talented person you are meant to be.